THE DEFIANCE PROGRAM

The more you push, the more they push back.

Power struggles are a cycle. This program helps you step out of it so you and your strong-willed kid can get on the same team again.

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The Defiance Program

The Defiance Program

On-demand video lessons, scripts for stubborn moods and standoffs, plus Dr. Becky's live workshop on November 23 and the replay.

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FOR PARENTS OF KIDS AGES 2–10
FOR PARENTS OF KIDS AGES 2–10

For the "You can't make me!" moments

Dr. Becky shows you what’s really going on when your kid digs in, what to say in the moment, and how to stay in charge without threats, time-outs, or giving in. It’s practical, with tools you can use tonight.

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The Defiance Program includes:

  • 12 on-demand video lessons that explain what’s driving defiant behavior and how to respond to “no” without a standoff.

  • Parenting Scripts that give you the words for hard moments to keep your calm and avoid a power struggle.

  • Routine Builders for extra-stubborn hot spots - The morning rush and bedtime pushback.

  • Dr. Becky’s live workshop + replay on November 23 at 11am ET, featuring real parent situations and modeled scripts.

  • The The 5-Step Cooperation Playbook for getting your kid on board without a fight.

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A strong-willed child during a family power struggle
A strong-willed child during a family power struggle
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Changing a parenting approach is hard. Dr. Becky breaks things down in such a practical, straight-forward way that I know I can really do this. Thank you for helping me feel empowered, not awful.
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See the standoff for what it really is

Some kids fall apart in tears. Strong-willed kids fall apart in defiance. The icy stare, the “You can’t make me!”, even laughing when you set a limit: that’s what overwhelm looks like for them. Underneath it is a kid who’s scared of losing control, and who needs you to stay steady and hold the line. This program will show you how.

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What you'll walk away with

  • What to do when your kid pushes back, and why that icy standoff is actually their version of a meltdown.

  • What to say in the hardest moments, even when you’re already annoyed.

  • What to stop doing to avoid power struggles, and what to do instead.

  • How to get ahead of resistance and find your edge when your kid digs in

  • How to give your kid the autonomy they crave without giving up control.

  • How to deepen connection with your kid for better coopertation.

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Your Expert Host

Meet Dr. Becky

Clinical psychologist. Founder of Good Inside. #1 NYT bestselling author. Mom of three who has helped millions of parents move through power struggles with sturdy leadership and connection.

Dr. Becky

Common Questions

Is this program right for me?

If everyday requests, like shoes, screens, dinner, and bedtime, keep turning into standoffs, this program is for you. It’s designed for parents of strong-willed kids ages 2 to 10 who’ve tried threats, time-outs, and consequences, and are still stuck in daily power struggles.

What's included in the Defiance Program?

You’ll get videos that model what to do when your kid says “No,” games and strategies to help you reconnect, the 5-Step Cooperation Playbook, and scripts for hot spots like the morning rush and bedtime. You’ll also get Dr. Becky’s live workshop on November 23 at 11 AM ET, plus the replay.

What if I can't attend the November 23 workshop live?

You’ll still be able to watch! The replay will be in your program a couple of days after the live event, so you can watch when it works for you and come back to it anytime.

Will this work if my kid pushes back on everything?

That’s exactly who it’s built for. Nothing in this program depends on your kid cooperating first. You’ll learn what to say when they dig in, how to hold a limit calmly, and how to stay connected while you do it. And if your kid pushes even harder at first, that’s normal. It usually means they’re testing whether your new calm is for real.

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