If your kid recently started to spit—or do something else that you just want them to stop doing—it’s easy to get into a power struggle. Annoying behaviors often become a way for kids to assert their individuality and express big feelings. In this episode, Dr. Becky talks to three parents dealing with spitting and what feels like defiance. She offers actionable strategies for responding to these undesirable behaviors in ways that are effective because they speak to the motivation under the behavior. You don’t want to miss this one; the strategies Dr Becky models are easily generalizable beyond spitting—from potty language to screaming to any “Just stop it!” behaviors.